How to learn to be a mystery to a man. How to be unpredictable for a man and always remain a mystery

Natalya Kaptsova

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The relationship between two people is not only based on mutual love, passion and trust. Time passes, and the relationship gradually moves into the stage when you know absolutely everything about your partner. And in a family where there is nothing left to surprise each other, fatigue from predictability often sets in. How, years later, can you remain a mystery to your man?

• Don't be predictable. A man’s interest (in addition to traditional interests) also rests on the opportunity to discover new facets in a woman. Don’t live “on a schedule” - breakfast, lunch, dinner, scandal, heated reconciliation, curlers and a mask at night. True, overdoing it with unpredictability is also not the best option. Everything is good in moderation.
  
  
• Be discreet. Even if you are a completely open person - this does not mean that a man needs to be told and shown everything. Let him think that in his absence you are living your own, unknown to him, rich life, even if this is not so. This keeps the man on his toes, not allowing him to think: “she’s not going anywhere from the submarine.”
• No need to call your husband at work every 15 minutes and report that you fed the cat, went to the store, watered the flowers and sewed a button on his shirt. In the evening he will ask you how your day was. But even then, you shouldn’t give him your daily to-do list.
• If he sent you an SMS or an email, don’t rush to answer right away . Behave as you would when meeting someone – pause. And sometimes you can answer a phone call with “I’ll call you back, I can’t talk right now.”
  Surprise your man. Constantly surprise. Change yourself, your lifestyle, diet, appearance, rearrange - be different all the time. Experiment with haircut and makeup, with dresses, underwear and nightgowns, even with bed linens and scents in the house.
  
  
• Don't get too carried away with creating your own "highlights", so that they do not turn into tough and old dried apricots. A man loves mystery in a woman, but this does not mean that he will want to count cells in a “Japanese crossword” all day long.
• Know how to keep secrets about your life. If you have just started dating or living together, no need to spill all the secrets about yourself at once, including childhood illnesses, the inadequacy of your boss and the quirks of your second cousin. Such a confession will only scare the man away. And he will simply become bored with “guessing” you. For all questions, try to give the bare minimum of information. Moreover, it is extremely positive. Hide the rest for now. Remember that.
• Know how to shut up in time. Understatement is talent. Like in a soap opera - that is, “in the most interesting place.” And let him wait, worried, for the “next episode.”
• Always leave in style . So that he notices.
• Don't devote your whole life to waiting for him, your beloved. Take up a couple of hobbies. It would be good if they also generate income. Lead an interesting and rich life. He should not think that you consider him a light in your window, and the best entertainment for you is to bring him slippers after work. In this case, your mystery is zero. Conduct yourself, understanding and emphasizing that you are confident in yourself and that the world has not converged like a wedge on him, the unique one.
• Look after yourself. Always, even at home, on a day off get ready to look like a magazine cover model. Even 10 years of marriage behind your back is not a reason to wear a mask of sour cream and cucumbers in front of your husband, wear worn out slippers and an old robe, etc. A man should see you well-groomed and beautiful.
• Never allow yourself to perform various beauty procedures in the presence of your husband. . It’s clear that he’s already seen you without makeup, but you shouldn’t pluck your eyebrows, do a manicure/pedicure, apply makeup, squeeze pimples or sew up holes in your tights in front of him. Hide this part of your life from a man, as if you had just met. Let him think that you are already waking up so fantastically beautiful, smelling delicious and well-groomed. Even our grandmothers always advised getting up before your spouse so that when he wakes up, you will be “fully armed.”
• Be careful. Your erotic underwear is like a candy wrapper that a man must unwrap at a certain moment. That's why there's no point in throwing your laundry around anywhere- it is perceived by a man with interest only on a woman, but not on the back of a chair or on a rope over the sink. - and your man will always feel attraction and interest in you.
• Don’t forget to surprise your man at your dinners together.. Every woman knows about the “path to the heart...” from the cradle. That is, a man should eat fully and tastyly, so that he does not have the strength and desire to eat other people’s buns. But you shouldn’t accustom a man to the fact that you practically live in the kitchen. Sometimes you can “please” him with a couple of jars of canned food, motivating such a dinner with your busyness.
• Never tell a man about a pimple that popped up on a soft spot or uncomfortable pads.
• Concerning belching and other natural processes in organism, a man must firmly believe that your body is not capable of producing such sounds at all.

To be always desirable and mysterious is not an easy science. But a little bit of feminine cunning - and your man’s admiring gaze will follow you relentlessly.

1. Never don't be afraid to lose my man. Men can sense when a woman is afraid of losing them. There comes a time when they start to take advantage of it. Your task is to show him that you have a lot of options without him, and you can easily spend the evening without him.
2. Don't humiliate yourself. Whatever happens, respect yourself and your dignity. Remember, once you step over it, it will be difficult to rise in the eyes of a man.
It’s better to immediately show the man that you can’t be rubbished, that you are a worthy girl and require special respect for yourself.
3. Try to be inaccessible. You don’t need to immediately agree to all a man’s proposals. He offers to meet, don’t squeal with joy, but thoughtfully tell him that you need to look in your diary to see if there’s anything more important. The colder you show interest, the more a man wants to conquer you. A mystery girl is every man's dream.
4. Be confident in yourself exude confidence. Do not compare yourself with other women in front of him, no matter which ones, exes or just friends. Since he is with you now, it means he is interested in you, and not other women.
5. Don't talk about marriage and serious relationships on first dates.
Men perceive such conversations as a signal of danger. It’s better to lull a man’s vigilance by pretending that you don’t want to get married.
6. Don't become his property, which he can use at any time convenient for him. When a man realizes that a woman belongs to him completely, and he can see her at any time, the hunter’s interest in him fades away.
7. Be there for him as much as possible. incomprehensible. You always want to know the secret, to reveal it. Don’t tell your man all your secrets, don’t try to introduce him to all your girlfriends. Leave part of your life closed to him.
8. Don't try to take it under your control. There is no need to control or patronize a man.
9.Compliment your man, they love them very much too. No man can resist if you tell him that he is the most beautiful, the smartest, the most beautiful.

10. Show gratitude to your man. It is important to praise for a well-organized day off, for a beautiful bouquet, for a delicious cake. Let him feel that you appreciate his efforts.
11. Look defenseless, gently, then the man will want to protect you, lend you his strong shoulder.
12. Take care of your face, hair, nails. Well-groomed women are always an object that attracts the eye. Don't let yourself show up on a date with chipped nail polish. After all, you want a handsome prince next to you, so be a princess yourself!
13. Love yourself, remember, if you don’t love yourself, no one will.

As you know, men prefer women who have some kind of mystery, a riddle. Such women always conquer and inspire men. They never get boring, because a woman’s riddle cannot be completely solved. Every woman can become mysterious. Let's talk in more detail about how to become a mystery to your man.

Mystery woman: who is she?

This is a real Woman with a capital letter. She knows how to be different and at the same time always remains herself. Don't be an open book to a man. After all, by nature a man is a conqueror and explorer. To become a mystery to your chosen one, follow our advice:

• Don’t try to tell your man all the smallest details of your life: about your ex-men, work, problems, etc. You can tell something important, but he shouldn’t know everything.
• Don’t control a man, don’t try to spend 24 hours a day with him. If he is at work, don’t call him every half hour or bombard him with SMS messages. Also, don’t report where and with whom you were, what you did. If he asks, you can tell him, but not in all the details. It is useful to disappear from a man’s life for a while, minding your own business - this will greatly stir up his interest.
• You should have your own personal space - your own interests, interests, hobbies. No matter how much you love a person, you cannot dissolve in him, live by his interests, desires, aspirations. A woman who constantly looks into a man's mouth and hangs on his every word cannot be mysterious.
• Learn to listen more than talk. If you chat incessantly and don’t let a man say a word, then you are unlikely to become a mystery to him. The best communicator is the one who knows how to listen.
• Change. Don't stay in one image for too long. Be different - change your clothing style, hairstyle, behavior. A woman can have different roles: girl, mother, seductress, warrior, muse, etc. If you combine various female archetypes, then you will always be desirable and mysterious to a man.

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Do you want to be mysterious? A short excursion on this topic will help you win the attention of any man who is even the slightest bit interested in you.

“At a time when other girls wanted to become ballerinas,I dreamed of being a vampire» (A. Jolie)

Here is the first recipe for mystery - be different. However, it is worth remembering that all your interests that distinguish you from other girls should be liked first of all by you!

Do what everyone else cannot do because of their “handlessness and laziness.” Show others that you are an extraordinary person, capable of embroidering with your eyes closed or singing arias in the style of heavy metal.

“Be brave, be daring, be free” (A. Jolie)

It was thanks to her free behavior that Jolie attracted the attention of a man like Bradd Pitt. It is infinitely stupid to act and think according to templates. Look for new ideas, ways out of difficult situations and more humor :).

A cheerful, problem-free woman is exactly what men of the 21st century are looking for. However, freedom and audacity should not be confused with outright vulgarity. Everything must have its limit.

"There's no harder job than lookingbeautiful from eight in the morning until twelve at night" (B, Bordeaux)

An impeccable hairstyle even after a physical education lesson, neat makeup without a hint of “raccoon”, nails of sufficient length, clean, ironed clothes. He will be sincerely surprised when you managed to change your sports sneakers to comfortable ballet shoes and where did the wonderful curls on your sweaty forehead come from just 5 minutes ago?

Grooming is the key to popular women.

“Restrain yourself when it’s offensive and don’t make a scene,when it hurts - that’s what the ideal woman is” (Coco Chanel)

Making public scenes, crying or quarreling with your girlfriends or boyfriend in front of everyone is an unacceptable luxury. Hold back and raise your head proudly, leave the battlefield. A man will appreciate the absence of public humiliation, and you, in turn, will have time to remove all offensive words from your prepared speech :). Besides, if you leave with just a hint of tears, there is an option to make him feel pangs of conscience :).

“Don’t worry, but worry” (M. Monroe)

Stop blushing and turning pale in front of him, forgetting your name and home phone number. Make him feel excited when he sees you. Cast languid quick glances, casually touch his hand, laugh at his jokes melodiously, throwing your head back picturesquely.

When leaving after a date, bring your face closer to his face, but without kissing, leave him in complete bewilderment :). Let him guess what you meant by that.

"Life is not heaven, you shouldn'tto be ideal” (D. Karanji)

Allow yourself cute ponytails, books forgotten on benches and a confused look. A woman should look like a woman, not a knight in shining armor. You don't have to save anyone, you need to be saved!

Jump with a parachute, but be afraid of dogs. Open a bottle of champagne yourself, but you won’t be able to handle the clasp on your boot. Let the man make you happy, touching and sweet :).

For everyone who read the article to the end, I’ll give a couple more tips, not from Jolie and Chanel, but from myself

• Trying to intrigue a man with his mystery, will have to maintain this image for many years. He must understand that he took the best prize and you simply have no right to disappoint him :).
• Let your darlings shortcomings become yours advantages.
• Be yourself, but at the same time keep a little distance from your bad side :). Men love devils, but only those who have a halo under their horns.

Initially, almost every woman is a riddle within a puzzle, shrouded in a mystery not only for a man, but also for herself.

And of course, in order to be loved, desired and happy, a woman needs to be mysterious, but not in the social sense, but in the psychological sense.

A woman of mystery in social and psychological understanding

In social understanding(according to social surveys) a girl or woman who is a mystery for a man is, rather, a fatal, unpredictable, selfish and hypocritical bitch who wears an intriguing social mask and wants to manipulate the stronger sex.

In a psychological sense(according to psychological analysis) a mystery woman or girl is a person with a set of secret (hidden from awareness), unique and positive internal qualities:

• Spontaneity (unpredictability - not in the sense of “you don’t know what she’ll do this time”, but in the sense of “what a pleasant surprise awaits me”);
• Autonomy (independence and self-sufficiency);
• Intimacy (the ability for psychological closeness and openness in relationships);
• Novelty (no repetition, the same thing);
• Charm (charm, charisma, zest..., like “there’s something about her...”);
• Sensuality (emotionality, spirituality, soulfulness);
• Women's wisdom (instead of "intelligence", and even more so stupidity).

It is precisely such a mystery woman that a man needs (for the most part), it is precisely such a mysterious and enigmatic girl who will be happy like a woman with her chosen one all her life.

And it is precisely such a mysterious representative of the fairer sex that will never become a “read book” for her man.

Should there be some kind of mystery in a woman?

Without a doubt, in a psychological sense, a woman must have some kind of mystery, some secret, an easy puzzle for her man.

If we imagine that love, emotional acceptance, psychological support, attention, recognition are emotional and psychological food (food), and relationships (close communication) are the intake of this food, then the mystery woman is a source of balanced nutrition for a man - food , which will never get boring.

At the same time, the man will protect, cherish and cherish this source of life - his mysterious woman.

How to become a mysterious woman

Becoming a mysterious woman is not so easy - on the one hand, but on the other hand it is not so difficult. The main thing is to have a desire, and not just want (it would be nice...).

And learn, learn and learn again... if you weren’t taught this in childhood...

To become a mystery woman for your man, you need:

1. Love yourself and make your self-esteem adequate - neither too low nor too high;
2. To know and understand the inner secrets of your mysterious feminine nature yourself in order to be able to manage yourself;
3. Determine all your pros and cons - strengthen the former and neutralize the latter;
4. Take off the social mask and become yourself (get rid of unnecessary complexes, not forgetting about morality);
5. Learn to be honest and open with yourself;
6. Get rid of childhood illusions, emotions and actions (resentment, jealousy, guilt, revenge, excessive anxiety, anger and sadness);
7. Learn to be independent and self-sufficient, become an autonomous person (meaning freedom from prejudice, stereotypical thinking, irrational beliefs and beliefs;
8. Become spontaneous (live in the present “here and now”, and not exist in the past “yesterday and there” or the future “tomorrow and then”);
9. Learn to be charming, charismatic, and not flirtatious and seductive;
10. To be always new and unknown even for a permanent man and in a long-term relationship;
11. Learn to be sensitive, moderately sympathetic, sincere and understanding;
12. Learn feminine natural wisdom

Learning all these intricacies in order to become a mystery woman only seems very difficult. Start with self-love and knowledge of your inner “I” (not to be confused with selfishness and narcissism, narcissism).

And in just a couple of weeks, you will be transformed both in your eyes and in the eyes of your present or future man.

If you childishly wait for miracles without doing anything, then you do not want to become a happy woman, but would only like this, i.e. you dream, waiting for a fairytale ending... It’s in vain...

Reasoning like “if only... yes if only” is the thinking of losers...